Deep Listening Recap

Facilitator: Hanna T/Yesus, Deputy Director at New Enlightenment Trading and Consultancy

We started the session with questions and answers.

  • What does deep listening mean?  Listening means giving attention to a sound or action. It involves emotional, cognitive, and behavioral components.

There are different types of listening

  • Active listening – gives attention and can paraphrase related with empathetic listening
  • Critical listening – explanatory and defending listening, listening to give feedback, focus on what is being said.  Example:  lawyers, an interviewer
  • Therapeutic listening – focus on problem-solving
  • Deep listening – committed to understanding the speaker’s perspective, pays attention to both verbal and nonverbal speaking

Next, we were asked to write down what we would like to see in the people we love. Some replied: Loyalty, Honesty, Listener, Warmth, Calm, and Obedient. Then we moved on and wrote the things we don’t want to see in them. Some replied: Judgmental, Arrogance, Careless, Someone who doesn’t keep their word, Offensive, Passive aggressive, Conclusive, and Pity.

Major Takeaways  

  • There’s no right or wrong; it all depends on personal preferences
  • Being fully present and grounded
  • Avoid going back to the past or forward to the future. The most valuable thing we have is “NOW”
  • What we want from others, we must also give
  • Under-developed listeners are
    • Unable to separate one’s needs & interests from those of others
    • Have an automatic bias
    • Judgmental: WE ALL JUDGE; the first thing is accepting that
  • Working on self-acceptance is very important
  • There’s a huge demand for listening
  • How to cultivate deep listening
    • Mindfulness & Awareness
    • Awareness of the body and its subtle messages

Focusing: Self-knowing, caring, presence & intuitive insight, Empathy

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