Facilitator: Tsigereda Kassa, MMH Officer of Mela For Her
The session started with our facilitator Tsigereda introducing herself and the group. She began the discussion on detachment by addressing the idea of expectations and the need to detach from one’s old self. The shared ideas associated with detachment include both attachment and detachment, focusing on bonds with family, friends, partners, relationships, parenting, and relatives.
Being “attached” to someone or something is explored, highlighting how some work environments can demand excessive commitment, often at the expense of personal life. The importance of seeking inner confirmation rather than external validation is emphasized. Attachment is portrayed as having both positive and negative aspects, with the realization that the true extent of harm or hurt experienced in a situation may only become apparent after one has detached from it. For instance, excessive parental attachment can hinder a child’s development by depriving them of essential life skills.
The responsibility to manage attachment levels is placed on individuals, and the concept of detachment is defined as breaking free from attachment, dependence, and expectations. This process involves replacing old habits with new ones, such as setting boundaries, practicing independence, creating personal space, and dedicating time to personal development.
- Identify the reasons behind attachment, release negative emotions, and avoid reactive behavior
- Start with small changes like journaling, meditating, and exercising patience
- Detachment is presented as a means of personal growth and self-care, distinct from being unfeeling or inconsiderate