Work-life balance is a phrase that gets thrown around in self-help books, career seminars, and late-night chats with friends. We hear about finding “the perfect balance” between work, family, hobbies, and self-care as though a magical equilibrium exists where everything fits neatly into place.

But is this balance truly achievable? Or are we chasing an unattainable myth that leaves us feeling like we’re always falling short?

The idea of “having it all” became mainstream in the 1980s, especially as more women entered the workforce and faced societal pressure to excel in both their careers and family lives. However, this notion quickly expanded, becoming a universal goal for professionals across industries.

The problem is that “balance” implies a perfect, static state where all aspects of life receive equal attention. Realistically, life is more like a seesaw—sometimes one area needs more focus, and that’s okay. The myth of balance often leaves people feeling guilty or inadequate, especially when their priorities shift.

In practice, achieving a flawless balance is nearly impossible, and research supports this. A study by the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (CIPD) found that 60% of UK workers struggle to manage the demands of their personal and professional lives [CIPD Report]. Burnout and stress levels continue to rise, especially in industries where long hours are glorified as a badge of honour.

Moreover, the rapid adoption of hybrid and remote work blurred the lines between personal and professional spaces, making it even harder to “switch off.”

Instead of chasing a perfect balance, it’s more realistic—and healthier—to think about priorities. Balance doesn’t mean everything gets equal attention at all times. Instead, it’s about making intentional choices based on what matters most in the moment.

1. Accept That Priorities Will Shift

There will be seasons when work takes precedence, such as launching a new project or meeting tight deadlines. Similarly, there will be times when personal commitments, like parenting or caregiving, require your full attention. Balance means allowing those shifts without guilt.

2. Focus on Quality, Not Quantity

It’s not about spending equal time at work and home but about ensuring the time you do spend is meaningful. For example, being fully present with your family during dinner or unplugging from work to recharge can make a world of difference.

3. Leverage Support Systems

Leaders and employers play a significant role here. Organisations that offer flexible working arrangements, mental health support, and reasonable expectations can help employees manage their lives more effectively. 

The myth of balance can leave us chasing an impossible ideal. Instead of striving for a perfect equilibrium, let’s focus on what truly matters in the moment. Balance doesn’t mean giving everything equal weight—it means honouring your priorities.

What does balance mean to you? Is it achievable, or should we redefine it altogether? 

Source: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/myth-balance-possible-have-all-biebele-koko-rh3xf/

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